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How do obese men and women clean their backside after having a bowel movement? I've noticed that it is becoming increasingly difficult to do this after gaining weight with a pregnancy. The question comes to mind because I'm not obese, and I cannot imagine how this takes place.
Posted:1/2/2002
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Monica A. , Fort Worth, TX, United States , 23 , Female , Christian , White/Caucasian , Straight , Homemaker , Technical School , Middle class
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Subject: Maybe they use a "grabber"?
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I'm not fat enough that wiping is a problem for me, but reading your question got me to thinking of ideas.

I've seen television shows in which people who were very, very large talked about how they managed similar tasks. One man was very fond of his 'grabber' - a retractable rod with a pincher on the end that opens and closes with a squeeze on the handle. He would use it to get things off shelves or pick things off the floor. He also grasped washcloths and things in it to get to hard-to-reach areas when bathing. I suppose you could do the same with toilet paper.

Posted:1/24/2002
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Jennifer , St. Paul, MN, United States , 31 , Female , Christian , Black/African American , Straight , Non-profit , 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: It's all in how you do it
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I think it depends on how you prefer to take care of this. Fat people (I find the word 'obese' offensive) do just fine. Anyone could have problems doing this. Short arms, big butt, whatever.
Posted:1/21/2002
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A.R. , Astoria, NY, United States , 31 , Female , Humanist , White/Caucasian , Straight , Over 4 Years of College
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Subject: Obese people wiping themselves...
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We usually just don't wipe. But if I really have to, I just use the shower to clean myself. I don't mind stepping on my feces since it all goes down the same pipes.
Posted:11/28/2004
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John Sistona , Eagle Rock, CA, United States , 24 , Male , New Age/Metaphysical , American Indian , Lesbian , Prostitute , Less than High School Diploma , Upper middle class, Paralyzed
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Subject: personal hygene and obesity
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I had a friend whom due to other health reasons weighed just short of 500 lbs and needless to say reaching was for him a major problem. However he had no problems keeping himself clean with a bidette installed on the toilet at home and a portable version that attached by suction cup under the seat that he used when traveling.
Posted:11/24/2004
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Deborah , Knoxville, TN, United States
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Subject: obese wiping challenges
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I've often wondered the same thing. My brother has strenuous bowel movements resulting from gluttony. When he's finished eliminating, he looks like he just finished wrestleing a strong man. The stench is horrible, and the toilet is totally plastered. It often takes him 2 or 3 flushed to get it all down.
I asked him about wiping...and he became very evasive. so I spied on him...sort of. I marked the toilet paper every morning while he was here...and whenever I noticed that he had used the toilet again. I kept stats: 69% of the time, he used NO toilet paper! 83% of the time....the sink was dry. He didn't even wash his hands. When I confronted him...again, he wouldn't face up. Just for fun....I ran the same 'study' with my normal weight friends. While they used TP 100% of the time....they only washed their hands 14% of the time.
I am amazed at how people can be this way...so clean looking and well groomed...with pooh on their hands most of the time.
If my posterior became large for a time, like pregnancy, I would probably getr one of those toilets that the Muslims use. It cleans your backside for you. Handy if you serve Allah, because once you have used your hand to wipe...you are forbidden from using that hand for the rest of the day.
I think I'll have the Muslims call on my Brother and friends and see about converting them. lol
Anyway, I hope your pregnancy 'with birth pangs' isn't too strenuous. And I look forward to the day when men won't have to work so hard ('with the sweat of your brow all your days you shall toil') and women are free from the pangs of birth. May that little blessing inside of you grow and kick, and then cry and nurse...just like a healthy little child with a God fearing mommy!
Posted:11/17/2004
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phil douglas , colorado springs, CO, United States , 45 , Male , as God intended , first Poland..now Iraq , High School Diploma , Lower class, Deaf
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Subject: shitty
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I know a guy too fat wo wipe his ass. He takes a shower after he shits.
sucks to be him.
Posted:2/21/2004
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gml , fdsg, NE, United Kingdom , 20 , Male
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Subject: wiping whilst fat
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i'm so fat i have to wash myself with a rag on a stick...
Posted:2/9/2004
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hern , new york, NY, United States , 27 , Male , Agnostic , White/Caucasian , Straight , schropshire slasher , Over 4 Years of College , Upper class
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Subject: a novel idea...
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Perhaps they use a bidet. hose down, air dry, good to go...
Posted:2/8/2004
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fred , fredricksburg, VA, United States
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Subject: How Fat people wipe themselves
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I have been obese most of my life and have come up with several methods.
1)Have some one else do it.(If you live near a zoo most elephant washers will com to your house for a small fee. Be prepared to stand on one leg)
2)Go to Home Depot and buy a saw horse. Wrap the saw horse with toilet paper and ride it like a bad pony.
3)If you are still able to get up stairs just use the banister and slide down.
4)And my favorite method...buy a dog and let it lick you clean. Fun everybody and save on dog food.

Remember being fat is no laughing matter, unless you are thin.

Regards,
Angry Fatman
Posted:2/7/2004
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Angry Fat Man , St. Paul, MN, United States
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Subject: RE: Obese people wiping themselves...
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Maybe they just jump in the shower and rinse off
Posted:2/7/2004
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JT , H-town, TX, United States
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Subject: Re: Obese people wiping themselves...
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As a very obese person (fat, big, whataever.. I don't like euphemisms). I can talk to this somewhat.

It's very difficult to do a good job, and I try to crap only once a day, and take a shower immediately afterward.

Other than that, I find that standing with one foot up on the seat makes it easier to get to all the little nooks and crannies.
Posted:2/7/2004
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Prefer to remain anonymous , somewhere, CA, United States , Male , Middle class
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Subject: How they wipe...
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The ones with more money use a bidet, often an automated Japanese model, to do the cleaning for them. Sanitizing and quite thorough.
Posted:2/6/2004
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John Edwards , Washington, DC, United States
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Subject: Sentitive personal issue
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Dear Monica. Some of us grossly obese people don't wipe at all. Some of us have our lovers do it for us. I often keep a spray bottle next to the toilet and a towel to floss myself with. It's really a sensitive issue. I pray to the Lord Jesus every day to make my arms grow a little longer. It's not an easy life and I hope you don't give in to the temptation to judge the obese. Who knows, you may not ever fully 'recover' from this little pregnancy of yours and become one of us. Then you'll find your own answer to this complicated question.
Posted:2/6/2004
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Bubba , Delawere, OH, United States , 24 , Male , Jehovahs Witness , Native Hawaiian , Straight , parking garage attendant , Over 4 Years of College , Lower middle class, obese
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Subject: Obese people wiping themselves...
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My cousin, who is morbidly obese, required a nurse to help him with this. After problems with his health insurance arose, he lost the nurse, and was eventually unable to wipe himself or have himself wiped. This led to a trip to the hospital to deal with the massive staph infection that had spread over his lower body. I believe he got some skin grafts too.
Posted:2/6/2004
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Mike , Columbus, OH, United States
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Subject: Obese people wiping themselves...
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I'm 500 lbs. The task is not easy, but when in the proper bathroom, it's very possible. Reach back to the lower back side with tissue in hand and push away from the wall in front of you which presses the body against the wall on the backside giving the person doing this an easy wipe.
Posted:8/11/2002
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James Curtis , Detroit, MI, United States , 35 , Male
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