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Subject: Why do seated women move their legs up and down?
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I have noticed over the years that women who are seated with crossed legs frequently rhythmically move their top leg up and down (or alternatively) pivot the foot.
Are they just nervous, or is there something, shall we say, more interesting going on?
Posted:9/13/2004
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Peter N. , Madison, WI, United States , Male
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Category: Gender
Subject: I twist my hair, too
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It's a nervous habit, something I do when I'm bored. I also twist or play with my hair, or clean my fingernails in the same situations. It has nothing whatsoever to do with 'sexual stimulation'.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Mychelline , Indianapolis, IN, United States , 38 , Female , White/Caucasian , environmental scientist , Over 4 Years of College , Upper middle class
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Subject: Blood circulation, that's all
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Sometimes it's just boredom, sometimes it's a nervous energy thing (like when people consistently bounce one leg up and down when seated). I remember way back in Junior High we talked about it being a blood-circulation thing - an involuntary movement caused by the passage of blood through the leg.
Posted:10/9/2005
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N. , Gordonville, MO, United States , Female
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Subject: Pressure points, not sexual
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As females we are expected to cross our legs when we sit down. As professionals we are often required to sit for extended periods of time. The movement of our foot, or the leg crossed over the top, helps stave off the discomfort caused by pressure points. The weight of a woman's leg (no matter her body weight) causes pressure primarily on the underside of the top leg and the 'outside' of the lower leg just below the knee where the calf rests, slowing circulation. Moving it frequently allows us to sit for a longer period of time until we need to recross our legs in the other direction. It had never occurred to me that men might see that as a sexual motion.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Monica , Sarasota, FL, United States , 42 , Female , Unitarian , Straight , computer programmer , 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: I'll notice it now!
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I pivot my foot, and it's just something that relaxes me, like some people twisting their hair. I'm gonna be a bit more conscious of it now, oh dear!
Posted:10/9/2005
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Milly , London, NA, United Kingdom , Female
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Subject: Restlessness
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Not everything we do is to get a man's attention.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Miranda R. , Kansas City, MO, United States , 19 , Female , Catholic , White/Caucasian , Straight , Unemployed , High School Diploma , Lower middle class
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Subject: Why do seated women move their legs up and down?
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Foot flirting is usually done under the table. Sometimes it's with or without the shoes and making various contact with the other person's feet . This would be done in public in the open for all to see to express interest or attract attention of another person.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Melinda , Houston, TX, United States , Female , Straight , fashion model / designer , 2 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: Maybe You Just Notice It?
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Are you sure it's not just something you (as a man) notice more in women? I think this is something people of both sexes do. So far as the ankle is concerned, pivoting or making circular motions relaxes the ankle and leg - eases the muscles, etc - it's a comfort thing!
Posted:10/9/2005
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Margo , Trowbridge, NA, United Kingdom , 31 , Female , Agnostic , White/Caucasian , Straight , lawyer , Over 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: No sexual
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Women don't usually do that to 'invite' any sort of sexual attractions. Most just do it to make themselves more comfortable. If you sit one way without moving for a long enough time, it becomes very uncomfortable. Women also do it out of boredom sometimes.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Athena , Warren, NJ, United States , Female
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Subject: Just a fantasy, yep
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No, your fantasies aren't true.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Anna B , Seattle, WA, United States , 52 , Female , Unity School of Christianity , White/Caucasian , Straight , Writer , Over 4 Years of College , Upper class
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Subject: 'jiggling'
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It's not just women. My brother does it, too, and it drives me crazy when I'm seated at the same table as him. I think it's just a nervous habit - I used to do it all the time before I was diagnosed with (and treated for) an anxiety disorder. Maybe fewer men do it because they're socialized not to display things like nervousness.

Incidentally, the jiggling supposedly also boosts your metabolism somewhat - like constant, low-level exercise.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Lisa , Portland, OR, United States , Female
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Subject: I just tried it - it didn't work
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While some women may be doing this for the reason you suggest (I can only speak for myself, of course), I can't really imagine that it would be that effective. I just tried it, and it didn't work.

I do this sometimes, and I think it's more a matter of fidgeting than anything else. You know, some people shake their legs, some fiddle with pens, some play with their hair. I don't think it's sexual. Probably the reason women do it and men don't is that men don't sit cross-legged as often.
Posted:10/9/2005
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D.L. , State College, PA, United States , 25 , Female , White/Caucasian , Straight , student , Over 4 Years of College
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Subject: Workin' on their leg moves
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I've read where they can masturbate by just bouncing a leg up and down. This started back when women worked in the sweat shops, manually pumping the sewing machine pedal and simultaneously getting a nice feeling by keeping the thighs together.

Posted:10/9/2005
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Dave , Cincinnati, OH, United States , 35 , Male , Baptist , White/Caucasian , Straight , 4 Years of College , Upper class
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Subject: Passin' the time
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I've never noticed that. But, if by some weird chance it provides sexual stimulation, then good for them. What a great way to get through a dull party, date or whatever.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Vail , Philadelphia, PA, United States , 40 , Male , Atheist , mutt , Straight , 2 Years of College , Lower middle class
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Subject: Bored ... or sticky legs
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I generally move my foot around because I'm bored, or because my shoe is falling off.

And if I'm wearing shorts or a short skirt, I generally move my leg because my legs are sticking together.

I think men may be less likely to do that because when they cross their legs, it tends to be with the ankle at the opposite knee, which is a more stable position. The few men I know who sit with a more closed cross-legged position tend to fidget just as much as many women do.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Lisa , San Francisco, CA, United States , Female
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Subject: Like a guy scratching his head
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I am female and now that you mention it, have this habit. No, it does not provide any type of sexual stimulation. I would equate it to habits I've seen in men like removing a ball cap and then petting the back of their head. Kind of a nervous habit. Even though it doesn't necessarily mean you are nervous. The leg motion is definitely an effeminate action, much like walking with a hip swaying from side to side.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Tucker , Longview, TX, United States , 35 , Female , Catholic , White/Caucasian , Straight , 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: To get attention?
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In my experience, women do this for two reasons: One, they don't like sitting completely still, and two, to get a male's attention.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Emma , Clemmons, NC, United States , Female
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Subject: Cracking your knuckles...
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I do it when I'm nervous. I've seen articles in women's magazines that tout it as a lure and I find that seriously difficult to believe. I think most women do it when they're bored or uncomfortable. It's akin to cracking your knuckles or tapping your fingers.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Stacy , Houston, TX, United States , 25 , Female , Agnostic , White/Caucasian , Straight , Adminstration , Over 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: Just fidgeting
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You are describing a fidgety person who can't sit still.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Sheila , Dallas, TX, United States , Female
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Subject: Can't sit still
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I am a woman and I do this. It has absolutely nothing to do with sexual stimulation for me. It is simply nervous energy - I have a hard time sitting still for an extended period of time.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Sandra , Edmond, OK, United States , 44 , Female , White/Caucasian , Over 4 Years of College , Upper class
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Subject: Nervous Tension?
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If other women do this for the same reason I do, it's simply because of tension or stress. If I sit, but I have a lot on my mind, whether or not it's conscious or subconscious, I just can't sit still.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Sarah , Swannanoa, NC, United States , 21 , Female , Pagan , White/Caucasian , Phone Girl at a Pizza Place , High School Diploma , Lower middle class
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Subject: Got time?
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Pete, let me ask you: Is there anything, anything else at all, that might have caught your attention over all those years up there in Wisconsin?
Posted:10/9/2005
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Ron S. , Stockton, CA, United States , 60 , Male , Agnostic , White/Caucasian , Straight , High School Diploma , Middle class
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Subject: Well, I can't answer for all women...
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When I do it, I'm either: a) bored, and it is the equivalent of tapping one's fingernails, b) trying to keep my foot from falling asleep, or c) having a nervous tic.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Rina , Royal Palm Beach, FL, United States , 22 , Female , Catholic , White/Caucasian , Straight , High School Diploma , Middle class
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Subject: Nervous habit
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I'm kind of a fidgety person, and it's just a nervous habit. My Mom does it, too- she calls it her aerobics.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Rebecca , Rochester, MN, United States , 22 , Female , Christian , White/Caucasian , Straight , Registered Nurse , 2 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: Fidgety fidget
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If we could something more out of it, we might do it more.


It's just fidgeting.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Katrina , Moses Lake, WA, United States , 21 , Female , White/Caucasian , Straight , Student , 2 Years of College , Lower middle class
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Subject: Women tell me it IS stimulating
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I too have noticed that women move their crossed leg up and down. I have asked a few women about this and have been told by the unshy ones that yes, there is some sort of stimulation when the leg is moved in that fashion.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Sway , Atlantic City, NJ, United States , Male
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Subject: Not likely a come-on
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It's a nervous habit, like men bouncing their legs while watching football or playing a video game. It could be a come-on if it was done in a sexy way with an obvious smile, but probably it is not.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Stephanie , Nowhere, TX, United States , 26 , Female , Christian , White/Caucasian , Straight , SAHM , 2 Years of College , Lower middle class
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Subject: Crossed legs can fall asleep
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It has absolutely nothing to do with sexual stimulation. It's more like tapping your foot, drumming your fingers or any other personal fidget. Swinging (or pivoting) one's foot, or bouncing one's leg, also facilitates blood circulation to the lower leg, thus preventing the dreaded tingling of a foot that's 'fallen asleep.'
Posted:10/9/2005
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Merry D. , Dallas, GA, United States , 40 , Female , Agnostic , White/Caucasian , Straight , data entry , Technical School , Middle class
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Subject: Lucky for you...
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Women do this when they're alone or just with other women as well as when they're with men, so I doubt they're intentionally doing it to attract men. The fact that it's pleasing to some men to watch, well, lucky you! We aren't at all fond of watching what men do when THEY have sore feet.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Allison , Seattle, WA, United States , Female
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Subject: Nothing usually sexual about it....
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Many people, mostly women but some men, have something known as restless leg syndrome. This is an affliction that makes it very uncomfortable to keep your legs still when you get something that feels like tingles going up and down your leg. There are times, however, that a woman may notice an attractive man checking her legs out and move them in a sexy way, the way someone will smile flirtatiously, give a glance, etc.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Jessica , Long Island, NY, United States , 26 , Female , Agnostic , White/Caucasian , Bisexual , Social Worker , Over 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: No, we aren't Sharon Stone
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Unless their going for the Sharon Stone effect, I don't think it is a conscious sexual attempt.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Cindy , Appleton, WI, United States , 30 , Female , Agnostic , White/Caucasian , Straight , Technology , 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: Uh, no.
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It's called fidgeting. In other words, it does not provide sexual stimulation. I've seen both genders do it. Men who cross their legs often shake the top foot, much like a woman might. The only difference is that a man does not cross his legs the way a woman does.
Posted:10/9/2005
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Carolyn , Birmingham, AL, United States , Female
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Subject: I don't think it's a sexual thing
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For me it's more of a nervous habit or from boredom. I remember seeing women do it when I was little, and trying it. It really does become a habit that you don't think about.
Posted:7/28/2005
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Stacie H. , Abilene, TX, United States , 21 , Female , Christian , White/Caucasian , Straight , student , 4 Years of College
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Subject: Is everything sex with men?
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Is everything sex to men? No offense meant, but it's just fidgetting. Very rarely does it mean anything. And, to let you know a little secret, foot-twirling burns something like 250 calories an hour. That's why I twirl my feet when I sit cross-legged. Also, sitting cross-legged isn't exceptionally comfortable for extended periods of time if you don't move your legs.
Posted:7/28/2005
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Yvonne , Columbia, MO, United States , 27 , Female , Wiccan , White/Caucasian , Straight , Realtor , Over 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: Not sexual
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Speaking only for myself, it's just a figdety thing analogous to tapping your fingers on a desk. I discount a sexual aspect because the behavior doesn't seem specific to the gender or presence of observers. It isn't at all stimulating personally, either.
Posted:7/28/2005
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Lyn P. , Honolulu, HI, United States , 42 , Female , mixed race , Straight , Taxes & Accounting , 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: Like drumming, is all
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It is a form of fidgeting, just like drumming your fingers on the table or swirling the ice in your glass. Some of us just find it hard to sit still.
Posted:7/28/2005
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Gayle F. , Columbia, MI, United States , 52 , Female , Christian , White/Caucasian , Straight , Sales , Over 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: Boredom, nerves, discomfort
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Probably from boredom, nerves, or discomfort. As far as boredom, it's like twiddling your thumbs or tapping your fingers. We might be nervous and changing positions a lot. Might be discomfort as legs may ache or try to go to sleep when crossed. If it has any deeper connotation to all of this, I don't realize it consciously.
Posted:7/28/2005
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C.Y. , Memphis, TN, United States , 40 , Female , White/Caucasian , Straight , Middle class
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Subject: are you that bored?
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it's because i can't sit still. and men do it too. so you tell me, why do men do it?
Posted:5/28/2006
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Kelly , Houston, TX, United States , 27 , Female , Agnostic , white/hispanic , Straight , teacher , Over 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: Keeping the Blood Flowing
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When you sit cross-legged, the circulation diminishes after a while. You have to move your legs around to keep the blood flowing and stay comfortable. This might involve moving the leg or foot, uncrossing the legs and crossing them in the other direction, etc. It is about comfort, not sexual stimulation.
Posted:7/18/2005
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Zoey , Tampa, FL, United States , 30 , Female , White/Caucasian , Over 4 Years of College , Upper class
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Subject: crossed legs
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It's because our legs go numb when crossed -- usually the top one. Switching them restores circulation.
Posted:7/10/2005
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Rachel , Niagara-on-the-Lake, NA, Canada , 36 , Female , White/Caucasian , Straight , Homemaker , 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: Pure Habit
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I find myself shaking tables and even cars sometimes with this habbit. My mother did it when I was little, and I hated it. Now that I am older, I guess I have acquired this habbit from her. I also rock myself to sleep with my rhythmic foot at night. It's nothing that I have ever consciously decided to do, it just happens.
Posted:6/28/2005
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Jessica , Pittsburgh, PA, United States , 19 , Female , White/Caucasian
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Subject: comfort
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when i cross my legs, my bottom knee usually digs into my upper calf and can become uncomfortable. When i move my legs and feet around, it alternates the weight so i can sit more comfortably.
Posted:4/10/2005
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Jayna , Columbia, MO, United States , Female , Christian , White/Caucasian , Straight , hotel bussiness , High School Diploma , Middle class
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Subject: re: seated women moving legs
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I used to sit crossed legged, but the blood gets trapped in the lower leg and makes it an uncomfortable position, hence the fidgeting. I believe people with varicose veins are advised not to cross their legs when sitting because of this, as the veins struggle to pump blood back up the legs.
Posted:3/9/2005
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Carol , Berkshire, NA, United Kingdom , 24 , Female , Christian , White/Caucasian , Straight , 2 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: legs do fall asleep
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I have seen this in guys too, but I do it because if I dont my legs go numb.
Posted:1/26/2005
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Kate , Twisp, WA, United States , 17 , Female , Discordia , Other Pacific Islander , Straight , student , Less than High School Diploma , Lower middle class
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Subject: Why do seated women move their legs up and down?
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More often than not, it's a movement made without concious thought. I am sure on occasion, when flirting, a woman will do it to make a man's attention be drawn to the legs. But for the most part, crossing the legs is a very uncomfortable position that cuts circulation off to the upper foot, and the movement probably helps with that.
Posted:1/9/2005
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Michele , Dallas, TX, United States , 36 , Female , Unitarian , White/Caucasian , Straight , Graphic Artist , 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: fidget
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I do that, and it has nothing to do with sex or flirting or anything like that.. it usually means one (or more) of the following: I have to pee, I'm cold, I'm nervous, I'm anxious, I have energy to burn..
Posted:1/8/2005
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Rachel , Atlanta, GA, United States , 33 , Female , Jewish , White/Caucasian , Straight , Over 4 Years of College , Upper middle class
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Subject: Why do seated women move their legs up and down?
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It's usually just a subconscious nervous habit.
Posted:12/31/2004
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Emma , Lancaster, PA, United Kingdom , Female , White/Caucasian
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Subject: Blood circulation!
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I do it because otherwise, the leg on top falls asleep. Maybe because women usually have their legs crossed longer/more often, this is why you don't see men doing it.
Posted:11/27/2004
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Rene , Bellingham, WA, United States , 25 , Female , 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: Restless Legs
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Moving one’s legs in the manner you are describing doesn’t provide sexual stimulation. It’s simply a fidgety movement. It might be an unconscious indicator of boredom, impatience, or irritation, but it has nothing to do with sex. Not being a man I can’t say why women do this and men don’t, but from what I’ve seen most men don’t cross their legs in the same manner than women do.
Posted:11/27/2004
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Amy H. , Seattle, WA, United States , 25 , Female , White/Caucasian , Middle class
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Subject: hmm
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I fidget with my legs crossed because I'm restless or bored. That's about all the meaning I can give ya. I've never heard of anything else.
Posted:11/27/2004
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Nadia , Bensalem, PA, United States , Female , Agnostic , Chinese-Iranian , Straight , student , Less than High School Diploma , Middle class
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Subject: Not quite
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Honestly, it's just fidgeting. I don't know about all women, but when I cross my legs, no matter how polite and proper it might be, it also puts my foot to sleep. So keeping my circulation going, a subconcious need to move around, and being basically a big fidget in the first place means I tend to do what you describe.

There's no sexual stimulation involved, that type of movement doesn't really involve the muscles that it would take to do that.
Posted:11/26/2004
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Meiran , Roanoke, VA, United States , 24 , Female , White/Caucasian , Straight , Writer , 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: Crossed legs
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I do this all the time, and it has never crossed my mind that it could be thought of as 'sexual stimulation.' I think when women do it, it is just a habit that half the time they dont even realize they are doing, just like anyone would tap a pen on a desk or crack their knuckles.
Posted:11/26/2004
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Haley , W, OR, United States , 17 , Female , Christian , White/Caucasian , Straight , Retail , Less than High School Diploma , Middle class
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Subject: nervous energy
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Nope, no sexual stimulation. You see it more often and more 'vigerously' in people that have higher metabolism. It's simply another way to burn off nervous energy.
Posted:11/26/2004
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d p , corpus christi, TX, United States , Female , Christian , White/Caucasian , Straight , 4 Years of College , Lower middle class
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Subject: Bouncing Legs
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I know that when I sit like that and bounce my leg it is simply because I'm bored and need to fidget or that my foot is falling asleep. Some women may do it for sexual reasons, but I'm guessing that those are few and far between.
Posted:11/24/2004
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Courtney , Toronto, NA, Canada , 18 , Female , Christian , Native Canadian/British/German/Ukranian , Straight , Undergrad Student
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Subject: Why do seated women move their legs up and down?
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I have a habit of constantly moving my legs or feet, whether they are crossed or not. As I spend most of my workday sitting down, most of it is just energy that doesn't have another outlet. Occasionally, if I am nervous or stressed, I will cross my legs and shake the top foot very quickly, but the rest of the time it is usually just a slow tapping movement. If my legs are uncrossed, I tend to bounce on the balls of my feet. I do this even when my legs are completely hidden by my desk, so it has nothing to do with gaining attention.
Posted:11/24/2004
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Celeste C. , Salt Lake City, UT, United States , 28 , Female , Agnostic , White/Caucasian , Straight , Tech Support , Technical School , Middle class
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Subject: Moving legs
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I do this all the time when I cross my legs. Sometimes I just do it unconsciously, other times I do it to help my foot from falling asleep. I also fidget like that when I'm either nervous, excited, or had too much coffee. I do know that some women will dangle their shoe off their toe with their legs crossed, and I always saw that as a sexual thing.
Posted:11/24/2004
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Jaymie , Suffern, NY, United States , 23 , Female , Jewish , White/Caucasian , Over 4 Years of College
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Subject: We're oblivious to it..
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Why does a person tap their fingers on a tabletop when bored or thinking? It's just something we do obliviously. Men dont do it because men dont cross their legs that somewhat lay one on the other. But they dont move their foot or scratch their beard/chin It's just a subconscience move.
Posted:10/23/2004
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Anna , Memphis, TN, United States , 17 , Female , Christian , White/Caucasian , Straight , student , Less than High School Diploma , Upper middle class
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Category: Gender
Subject: leg movement
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With me, it's more of a fidgety thing than anything else. It's definitely NOT related to sexual stimulation. I find that if I keep my legs crossed for a long time and I don't fidget, my legs get numb.

It may also be related to height. I'm about 5'3' and my feet rarely rest on the ground comfortably, hence the fidgeting. I expect most men are taller, so they don't have this problem.
Posted:10/19/2004
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Lynn , Washington, DC, United States , Female
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Subject: Nervous, boredom, or blood circulation?
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It seems like it could be a gesture for nervousness or boredom. Some women can get sexual stimulation from contracting the thigh muscles. Also, women tend to cross their legs 'tighter' than men, which can lead to poor blood circulation. Perhaps this is a way of ensuring blood still gets to the foot?
Posted:9/30/2004
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Anne , Cedar Falls, IA, United States , 21 , Female , White/Caucasian , 2 Years of College
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Subject: sexual stimulation
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Sexual stimulation? Umm...No. I cross my legs all the time and its mostly an unconscience thing to swing my leg sometimes. I don't think there is a real reason for it, maybe nerves.
Posted:9/30/2004
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Kathleen , New Orleans, LA, United States , 21 , Female , Pentecostal , Black/African American , Lesbian , 4 Years of College , Lower middle class
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Subject: Men, especially teen boys
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'do it' all the time. :-) I was thinking just as you hit your last line 'it does not seem to cross over', that it was a way guys (teens) dealt with all the hormones in thier body. But perhaps, by the way you phrased your question, we could say that both genders do this...'and why'. :-)
Posted:9/28/2004
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Kip , Boulder, CO, United States , 30 , Female , Atheist , White/Caucasian , Straight , what ever pays the bills , Over 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: moving legs
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I do this, and I don't do it for attention! I've always thought of it as a bad habit. It has more to do with being anxious, having a lot on my mind, feeling restless, etc. Usually if I notice that someone has noticed me moving my leg, I try to stop.
Posted:9/24/2004
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Ellie , Landenberg, PA, United States , 40 , Female , Christian , White/Caucasian , Straight , Over 4 Years of College , Upper middle class
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Subject: Why Do Seated Women Move Their Legs Up and Down
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I can only speak for myself. It's a nervous habit for me; same as twirling my hair or fidgeting with my fingers.
Posted:9/21/2004
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Lisa D , Fort Worth, TX, United States
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Subject: Why do seated women move their legs up and down?
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I'm not the scientific reason, but now that you mention it, i do it all the time, I think because I am BORED. I sit in an office all day, and I do it without realizing it.
Posted:9/20/2004
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Katie , Wheaton, IL, United States , 23 , Female , Catholic , White/Caucasian , Straight , engineer , Over 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: RE: Why do seated women move their legs...
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Well, when you cross one leg over the knee, it restricts the blood flow. Moving the leg up and down can negate this. As for why men *don't* do it... well, usually you won't see a man sitting with one leg crossed over his knee for very long. Typically, men sit with their legs splayed, or else resting at a slight distance from one another. Women, on the other hand, tend to cross their legs, either at the knee or at the ankle, or else press them close together. This goes back to the time when women only wore long dresses. Now it's just a cultural thing. You'll notice that a woman who sits with her legs splayed will typically appear either as 'mannish' or 'slutty-looking,' depending on how attractive she is.
Posted:9/19/2004
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Lefto , Brooklyn, NY, United States , 18 , Female , Jewish
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Subject: leg movement
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I sometimes catch myself moving my leg around when my legs are crossed, and it is more a habit than anything else. I find myself doing it more when I am anxious or tired. It is something that keeps me moving and keeps the blood flowing in my legs so that they don't fall asleep. I don't know about other women but it's never been a sexual stimulant for me.
Posted:9/19/2004
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Myriam F. , Iowa City, IA, United States , 19 , Female , Agnostic , White/Caucasian , Straight , student , High School Diploma , Middle class
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Subject: Nervous habit?
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I think it's just a way of running off excess energy. I've found that since I stopped training (I was a varsity athlete in hs and college), I've picked up a lot of little habits like that which basically just waste energy. Also, when one is sitting with their legs crossed like that, one leg is just kind of dangling in the air, so it's more natural to be moving it around.

I think it doesn't cross over to men because very few men (that I've met anyway) sit with their legs crossed like that.

Maybe there are some women who find that it feels good, but I imagine that would have to involve wearing some very tight pants. :)
Posted:9/17/2004
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Lindsey , Titusville, FL, United States , 25 , Pagan , Over 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: women crossing their legs
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I cannot speak for the entire female gender, of course, but I can assure you that when I move my top leg up and down while my legs are crossed, I am most definitely in no way providing myself with sexual stimulation. It's a very interesting idea, though, but I've never heard of any woman doing it for that reason. For me, it's an automatic thing; perhaps nervous energy, since situations requiring polite leg-crossing tend to be important ones (i.e. job interviews, meetings, etc.). Hope that helps some.
Posted:9/17/2004
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Jennifer , Jonesboro, AR, United States , 19 , Female , Agnostic , White/Caucasian , Straight , student , 4 Years of College , Lower middle class
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Subject: Gender
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I find it's not for sexual stimulation, but for curculation to lower legs and feet.
Posted:9/15/2004
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Nancy , Tempe, AR, United States , 48 , Female , Bahai Faith , White/Caucasian , Straight , Labtech , Middle class
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Subject: Women moving their legs
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I can only speak for myself, but it is just a physical mannerism, like drumming your fingers or stretching your back. It is not stimulating, other than it keeps your legs and feet from falling asleep.
Posted:9/14/2004
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me , Chatham, IL, United States , 39 , Female , White/Caucasian , 2 Years of College
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Subject: Why do seated women move their legs up and down?
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I was doing this unconsciously when I read your post. Crossing one's legs is considered more lady-like than not doing so, when wearing a skirt. Perhaps the leg-sway resulted from this. I really think this is a subconscious habit, and I don't remember being taught to do it or trying to imitate anyone.
Posted:9/14/2004
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Leah , Chicago, IL, United States
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Subject: Seated women moving their legs
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You may be interpreting something into their movements that have nothing to do with sex. They might have hemroids. Lots of people do.
Posted:9/13/2004
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Buddy , Houston, TX, United States , 30 , Male , White/Caucasian , Straight , Welder/Machinist , High School Diploma , Lower middle class
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