Dare to Ask: Do Latinos see blacks as 'the enemy'?
By Phillip Milano
I am Latina and have dated outside my race, particularly black males. ...
I've never been mistreated by blacks; I received only positive vibes. From my
own community, I was criticized and harassed and called names. What have been
other Latinos' experiences?
Raquel, 31, Gary, Ind.
Hispanics and blacks have animosity toward each other, and the males of any
race feel degraded and rejected when the females of their race are dating the
Eric, 22, Hispanic, Riverside, Calif.
Don't give me that --, that only the Hispanic culture does not accept
interracial dating, dude. You are full of yourself, clean it up. America is not
color blind yet.
Latino, 30, male, Virginia
I'm dating a Hispanic. As soon as we are around Hispanics, they stare and
make comments, quite often in Spanish. My girlfriend will not translate for me
because she knows it will probably lead to a fight.
Dirk, 23, white, Houston
It appears there's a little uneasiness in the homefront. ... There seems to
be resistance to change in everyone. We can hold on until we choke the life out
of something. It is sad.
Virlyn, 42, black female, Flint, Mich.
Mira muchacha ... you should have a little more consideration when talking
about your own race. I don't think "positive vibes" come from just one race.
Amanda, 18, Hispanic, Bristol, Penn.
Antes de que pienses mal - and don't go loco on us, either - it's this guy
below saying this stuff, not us. He's really smart, and he's Latino.
Right or wrong, it's like this:
Latinos who are prejudiced tend to be less so against blacks than against
Anglos, said psychologist Samuel Roll, co-author of "The Invisible Border:
Latinos in America." But it's not always a lovefest with blacks.
"Colonialism and slavery leave a residue, and part of it is disdain for
people who've been abused," Roll said.
Black people remain at the bottom of the social ladder in America, despite
their achievements and despite President Obama, he said.
"We try to pretty that over, but it's hard to be black. Immigrants struggling
to make it might feel their kids are associating with a lower caste, and the
family doesn't want that."
Also, the extended family is huge in Latino culture.
"If someone is threatening family unity, it's like, 'How far away from us is
he going to take you?' " Roll said.
But mostly it's fear, real or not, of being held back.
"It's 'You're going to hurt our grandchildren by making them the kind of
people treated like -- in this country," he said. "It's painful to be black. One
patient told me, 'I'm over hating being black, but sometimes I wish I could just
pull off my black skin, so when I go up to a counter and am not treated first, I
don't have to think it's because I'm black.' "
Phillip Milano, author of I Can't Believe You
Asked That! (Perigee), moderates cross-cultural dialogue at Y? The National
Forum on People's Differences. Visit www.yforum.com to submit questions and
answers. Send general column comments to email@example.com. You
can also hear his
or watch his