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Praise for I Can't Believe You Asked That!:
"Milano is quietly revolutionizing cross-cultural
- Pulitzer Prize-winning nationally
syndicated columnist Leonard Pitts
"This is a hilarious book ... Have you ever had a burning
question you were just dying to ask but you felt it was just too
politically incorrect to say aloud? Well, there is a new book out
with the answers to these questions..."
- Dayside with Linda Vester, Fox
"A truly rare achievement. It's fascinating, fun and
informative, but it also has the potential to have a profound impact
on the way we all see and understand each other..."
- John D. Thomas, contributing
editor, Playboy magazine; editor, Playboy.com
"Phillip Milano. He's a question-and-answer guy, sort of like a
Dear Abby, but with really provocative questions ... This cat
(has) a whole book of uncomfortable questions. It's race, gender,
sexuality, handicapped people - a very bizarre book ... But people
are people and the more we get this stuff out in the open, the more
it disarms it. There's a difference between asking questions and
reinforcing stereotypes, and that's important..."
- Marc Maron, Air America Radio's
"I applaud you for what you're doing ... It's an incredible
book. It diffuses everything ... Nothing is off limits, and the
questions have that childlike honesty to them..."
- Dee Snider, lead singer,
Twisted Sister; host, "Dee Snider Radio," WMMR,
"He doesn't care what we think about the questions ...
It's been great talking to (Phillip Milano) ... This was a good time
- and I was a little nervous about this segment before it
- Mark Riley, Air America Radio's
"If you've ever hesitated to ask a question because you think
it might be considered insensitive or impolitic, now is your chance
... Nothing is considered out of bounds..."
- CNN Headline News
"New workplace rules, political correctness and our tendency to
be super sensitive when it comes to racial stereotyping has meant
that there are questions that we have been dying to ask but were
afraid we'd offend someone ... But how did a white man end up the
moderator of what could become the great race debate? ... (Milano)
believed in the need to understand where another human being is
coming from -- even when we insist we couldn't care less. That is
incredibly valuable stuff..."
- Chicago Sun-Times columnist
"You could benefit from flipping through the pages of I
Can't Believe You Asked That! ... these questions can generate a
range of emotions and reactions. But the point of Milano's book is
not to get people mad, but to inform us about the lives and
experiences of others. Though many of the answers that people offered
to the questions posed in his book are conflicting, these responses
are balanced by the comments of experts whose responses to the
queries also appear in the book..."
- USA TODAY columnist DeWayne
�I like what Milano is doing ... I have to believe that there�s
sincerity about people who take the time to ask questions about
things that they don�t know about � no matter how goofy their
question may seem. So keep doing your thing, Phil. Because
conversation is the first step to get people of different races and
backgrounds to begin to listen to each other. And ultimately, to
- Tonyaa Weathersbee,
BlackAmericaWeb.com, Tom Joyner Morning Show 's web site
"There is a genuine interest in the issues that his book
addresses. A part of us wants to know about the weird stuff, the
inappropriate stuff, the politically incorrect..."
- Susan Scott, author,
Fierce Conversations -
Achieving Success at Work & in Life, One Conversation at a
The new book on Y?, I Can't Believe You
Asked That! (Perigee, 2004) offers
compelling, real dialogue - from both everyday people (our users!)
and experts - on even the most sensitive topics:
- What do blind people "see" in their
- Why do white people smell like wet dogs
when they come out of the rain?
- Why do so many gay men love The Wizard
- Do Catholics consider oral sex a sin?
Politically correct or not, these questions
reflect natural, honest, human curiosity about the lives and
experiences of other people. Nationally recognized diversity advocate
Phillip J. Milano uses these and a host of other questions from the
hugely popular Y? website to present an unflinching, occasionally
bizarre and sometimes hilarious look at the taboo topics so many
people wonder about - but usually don't dare ask.
Phillip Milano is
the Director and Editor-in-Chief of Y? The National Forum on People's
Differences, and founder of the National Diversity Newspaper Job
Bank, the nation's premier recruiting site for minorities and women.
He is the former chairman of the Recruitment and Youth Development
Committee of The Newspaper Association of America's Diversity Board,
and a featured speaker nationwide at
diversity-related professional conferences and seminars. He is an
18-year newspaper veteran and an editor for The Florida Times-Union
Devour I Can't
Believe You Asked That! yourself, buy
it for a family member or friend, or use it in your classroom or
diversity seminar. It's sure to create a buzz - as well as a lasting