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Subject: Can boyfriend cause breast milk?
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My new boyfriend loves to massage and suck on my breasts like a baby. While I like it, a friend tells me that if I let my boyfriend do this long enough that I will begin to lactate because my body will think I need to do so. Is this true, and should I tell him to stop?
Posted:4/12/2005
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Michele , Jacksonville, FL, United States , 20 , Female , White/Caucasian , Student , High School Diploma , Upper middle class
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Subject: Is he looking for mommy?
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How long does he do this? Are we talking a few seconds at a time during foreplay or an extended amount of time like a few minutes or more? If so, I'd be more concerned about his mindset. He may be in the beginning stages of substituting you for his mother. If it's only a few seconds during foreplay, I wouldn't worry about it. Enjoy the pleasure you're receiving.
Posted:11/29/2005
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Taz , Detroit, MI, United States , 34 , Male
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Subject: Find a new person for advice
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A woman will only produce milk with a hormone from her body that can be produced during pregnancy and afterwards or artificially with pills from a doctor.
Posted:11/29/2005
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Dina M. , Chicago, IL, United States , Female , Unsure of Faith , White/Caucasian , Bisexual , poet , Middle class
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Subject: No Way.
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You would have to be pregnant and have the right chemicals in your body to stimulate lactation.
Posted:11/29/2005
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James M. , Austin, TX, United States , 33 , Male , White/Caucasian , Straight , Over 4 Years of College , Upper middle class
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Subject: Tell him to have at it, he won't "Get Milk"!
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No, absolutely not. Lactation only occurs when your body is flooded with hormones either from the placenta separating from your uterus (giving birth) or if you are pregnant sometimes you can start lactating before the birth. Without those hormones your boyfriend can play all he wants and you needn't worry.
Posted:11/29/2005
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Nan , Albuquerque, NM, United States , 26 , White/Caucasian , Television Director , 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: Lactation requires hormones
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It is not true that sucking on a breast will make a person lactate. Your body does not produce lactating stimulating hormone because a boyfriend is sucking on your breasts. The hormone is produced during late pregnancy and after term. Since you like him sucking on your breasts, let him, especially if it gets you off.
Posted:11/29/2005
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Don , Columbia, SC, United States , 33 , Male , Episcopalian , White/Caucasian , Straight , Over 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: Boyfriend Causing Breastmilk
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Absolutely not, the production of breast milk is caused by a neurotransmitter called prolactin that is produced shortly after a baby is born. Its release causes the breasts to produce milk and when the milk drops, then you begin to lactate. The sucking of the infant at the breast stimulates production of a similar neurotransmitter called oxytocin that is released to help the mother's uterus contract and shrink down to normal size. Mothers who choose not to breastfeed must have their uterus massaged in order to stimulate contractions. This is done generally by nurses manually.

Trust me, your boyfriend could no sooner turn your breasts into udders than a reptile will hatch with a belly button.
Posted:4/16/2005
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Erica , Alexandria, LA, United States , 25 , Female , White/Caucasian , Straight , 4 Years of College
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Subject: It can be done
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Yes, having your partner stimulate your nipples can bring on lactation, but it takes a LONG time to happen....like 30 minute sessions 6 times a day kind of long. Some women and their partners attempt to bring on lactation before adopting, some just do it for fun!
Posted:12/16/2005
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Sarah , Asheville, NC, United States , 22 , Female , White/Caucasian , Technical School , Lower middle class
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Subject: Lactation
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Yes, frequent manual stimulation of the nipples either through sexual play or mechanical means like using a breast pump(which is how adoptive moms can breast feed their babies) can cause milk production. Normal sexual stimulation usually does not cause it, but excessive stimulation can. Should you begin to lactate see your doctor to rule out other causes and then either cut back on the stimulation or adjust to the fact that you will lactate until you stop the excessive stimulation. There is no harm in this type of lactating.
Posted:11/9/2005
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Susan MD , Chicago, IL, United States , 37 , Female , Catholic , White/Caucasian , Straight , Physician , Over 4 Years of College , Middle class, Lupus
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Subject: Depends
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Yeah it's true, and only tell him to stop if you don't want to deal with lactation, otherwise alot of couples like it.
Posted:8/18/2005
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Tab , San Antonio, TX, United States , 18 , Female , Atheist , White/Caucasian , Bisexual , High School Diploma , Lower class
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Subject: Milking it
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No. Let him suck. There is a lot more involved with lactation than just the sucking - hormones, etc during pregnancy, post-pregnancy. Perhaps your friend should visit a local health clinic for some general facts of life info.

As for you, relax and enjoy it!
Posted:7/29/2005
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Rapunzel , Melbourne, NA, Australia , 32 , Female , Human Race , Healthy sexual orientation , Speechie , Over 4 Years of College , Disability: Human Race
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Subject: milk
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He'd have to do it every two hours every day for about a month. Adoptive mothers can breastfeed their babies by pumping their breasts regularly until milk comes in. It has to be done as frequently as a newborn would -- about every two hours. So...doing it once a week or even once a night isn't going to make you have milk.
Posted:7/10/2005
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Rachel , Niagara-on-the-Lake, NA, Canada , 36 , Female , White/Caucasian , Straight , Homemaker , 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: Answer
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yes it is true you will begin to lactate but as to wether you ask him to stop or not that is your choice
( note if you had nipple peircings the milk duct will most likly be scared closed so lactating could be painful )
Posted:7/4/2005
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Jeremy , huntington, WV, United States , 30 , Male , Agnostic , Human , Gay , dishwasher , High School Diploma , Lower class
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Subject: boyfriend causing breast milk
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You will lactate only if you have had a baby recently. You begin lactation due to hormones, not because someone sucks on your nipples (although if you are lactating, this will cause your milk production to increase). If he likes it and you like it, there is no need to stop. Besides all that, babies suck REALLY HARD-often causing nipples to crack and bleed-and its doubtful you are finding this much hard sucking pleasurable so I would HIGHLY doubt he could trick your body into thinking he is a baby.
Posted:7/4/2005
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Melissa , Tifton, GA, United States , 24 , Female , White/Caucasian , Straight , nurse
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Subject: Only while nursing
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After a mother gives birth, her body automatically produces milk and will continue to do so as long as the baby nurses. You will not lactate until after pregnancy, but a boyfriend could taste that milk if he sucks after a baby was born.
Posted:6/30/2005
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Anne , Cedar Falls, IA, United States , 22 , Female , Catholic , White/Caucasian , Straight , Community Health Education , 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: unwanted lactation
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Probably not, unless you're also producing pregnancy hormones. It's a specific set of hormones released in a specific order during the course of pregnancy which causes the milk glands to activate. Mechanical stimulation might eventually cause mastitis, but I have never heard of a real case of a non-pregnant woman spontaneously lactating from it.
Posted:6/28/2005
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Ann , Kansas City, MO, United States , 38 , Female , Animist , White/Caucasian , Straight , Administrative Assistant , 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: breast milk
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It's not true. Your body needs to go through the hormonal changes that come with giving birth to develop breast milk. Basically, your body cannot be fooled by your boyfriend's performance, no matter how much he sucks like a baby.
Posted:6/26/2005
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Amanda , White Marsh, MD, United States , 26 , Female , housewife , Over 4 Years of College
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Subject: boyfriend cause breast milk?
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For you:

http://www.e-breasts.net/
Posted:6/11/2005
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Annie , St. Louis, MO, United States
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Subject: Yup
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I'm a new Dad, and from what I understand, your friend is right. Lactation is caused by the sucking of the infant, and is helped along by the hormones in the process of pregnancy. I think he would probably have to do it a lot, though.
Posted:6/1/2005
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Ryan , Santa Barbara, CA, United States , 29 , Male , Buddhist , White/Caucasian , Over 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: Lactation is Hormonal
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No way. Lactation is caused by an increase in testosterone levels for a long period (months), and then a sharp drop, which is exactly what happens during pregnancy. Even if he did somehow cause you to lactate, it shouldn't cause any bodily problems.
Posted:5/28/2005
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Rose , Orlando, FL, United States , 17 , Female , Agnostic , White/Caucasian , Lesbian , Student , Less than High School Diploma , Middle class
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Subject: boyfriends and breasts
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That is so not true!!! The only way that your boyfriend can 'produce' breast milk is if you are pregnant. Even then you have to be a certain amount of time into your pregnancy for those particular genetics to kick in. If you are wondering because this is not an activity you enjoy, then you need to tell him. If you do enjoy his massaging and sucking, then let him have at it and enjoy the fact that he obviously loves your breasts.
Posted:5/19/2005
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Reesa L. , Ellensburg, WA, United States , 37 , Female , Agnostic , White/Caucasian , Straight , High School Diploma , Lower middle class
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Subject: Nope - it isn't true
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Lactation is caused by internal changes in the body due to pregnancy. It isn't caused by stimulation to the breasts.
Posted:5/18/2005
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Jennifer , San Jose, CA, United States , 30 , Female , White/Caucasian , Engineer , Over 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: boyfriend causing breast milk?
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no, only the hormones your body makes during pregnancy will cause breast to make milk. if you are indeed 'leaking' anything, go to a docotr and get it checked, if you are not pregnant. although, if youa re pregnant and in your second and third trimesters, stimulation will cause colostrum to make, which looks like butter. it is the beginnings of breast milk and is full of nutrients babies need.
Posted:5/18/2005
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Kimberly Turnmire , Knoxville, TN, United States , 29 , Female , Catholic , White/Caucasian , Bisexual , stay at home mom , 2 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: breast milk
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Women lactate after they have a baby because of hormonal changes to their bodies. However, it is possible for a woman to begin to lactate even without the birth of the baby, if she is subjected to prolonged and REGULAR suckling, like a baby would do. (Most women wouldn't even begin to lactate then, but it is possible). Your boyfriend sucking on your nipples during sex should not cause you to begin to lactate, unless he is doing this once every few hours, every day, for weeks! Enjoy...
Posted:5/14/2005
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Laura , Van Nuys, CA, United States , 46 , Female , Jewish , White/Caucasian , Straight , College instructor , Over 4 Years of College , Upper middle class
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Subject: Responding to the breast milk question
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NO NO NO! There's a hormone your body produces while your pregnant that brings the milk in. The human body makes the milk to nourish the baby that grew inside you. You would have to have a baby to open the milk ducts in your breasts. Im currently nursing and haev a one month old and my husband did the same thing while I was pregnant and only tasted milk after I had the baby!
Posted:5/10/2005
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Sarah , Flint, MI, United States , 20 , Female , White/Caucasian , 2 Years of College
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Subject: No breast milk if not pregnant
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Hi Michele,
Your friend is definitely misinformed. Women do not begin to produce milk until they are actually pregnant...
From Wikipedia: 'Under the influence of the hormones prolactin and oxytocin, women produce milk after pregnancy to feed their baby.' These hormones are not present in your body (except occasionally in very small amounts) unless you're pregnant, so no matter how much someone sucks on your breasts, no milk will be produced. There's no need to make your boyfriend stop doing what he likes with your breasts, as long as you approve and it does not hurt you. Hope this helps!
Posted:4/24/2005
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Audrey , Chattanooga, TN, United States , 27 , Female , Christian , White/Caucasian , Straight , Over 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Subject: Nope
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No, he doesn't need to stop, you lucky girl. Hormones in a womans body trigger the lactation process. Once started, usually you will keep producing milk as long as it is being used. If you had just given birth and were breastfeeding, then your boyfriend could cause the milk to keep flowing after you had stopped breastfeeding. But there isn't any spontaniouse lactation response to the nipple being suckled.
Posted:4/15/2005
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Aysha , I.F., ID, United States , 27 , Female , Student , 2 Years of College , Lower middle class
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