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Category: Sexual Orientation
Subject: Am I a lesbian?
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My girlfriend and I recently found my hubby's hidden female wrestling videos. While we were watching one of them, my girlfriend and I turned to each other and commented that it looked like fun, and if we each wanted to try wrestling with each other. We were in our dresses, pantyhose and heels. We didn't even bother to undress, and within moments we were on the floor, rolling around with our nylon clad legs tightly intertwined. To make a long story short, we were both very aroused by wrestling with each other. In fact we shared numerous orgasms with each other. Does the fact that we were extremely aroused by wrestling with each other like this give any indication that we might just be lesbians and didn't realize it until now?
Posted:4/24/2007
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Alison , Milwaukee, WI, United States , Female
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Category: Sexual Orientation
Subject: Am I a lesbian?
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You might be bisexual. I think many women are.

Posted:6/6/2009
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Miguel Martinez, Cos Cob, CT, United States
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Category: Sexual Orientation
Subject: Hard to say
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I wouldn't take this one instance and pin your whole sexual identity to it.

While it is possible, you may just be bi sexual. Or perhaps you'd only get such a physical reaction to his friend alone. I'd see it as harmless and healthy experimentation. The 21st century is much more open to women exploring all sides of their sexuality, if perhaps you would like to engage sexually with your friend again then just be aware of possible emotional fallout but otherwise have fun.

As I understand it, your reactions were perfectly natural and harmless. Long term, only you will know what's in your heart.

Take care and I hope this helped.

Posted:9/11/2012
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Ben W, Dunfermline, Fife, Scotland, NA, United Kingdom , 25 , Male , Atheist , White/Caucasian , Straight , Stand up Comedian , Technical School , Lower class
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Category: Sexual Orientation
Subject: No one can really answer that.
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The problem is that orientation is not solely determined by who arouses you sexually. IMHO, it has a lot more to do with who you can fall in love with. There are a lot of lesbians married to men, who have sex with their husbands and maybe even have children, but are still lesbians. They're just too afraid to come out of the closet. There's also the possibility that you may be bisexual, which doesn't mean you have to have a partner of each gender at the same time. It simply means you can fall in love with both genders.

Love and Light
Posted:12/11/2007
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Shelly Strauss Rollison, New Alexandria, PA, United States , 49 , Female , New Age/Metaphysical , White/Caucasian , Bisexual , Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman , 4 Years of College , Lower middle class
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Category: Sexual Orientation
Subject: wrestling
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I'll give you my thoughts as a lesbian. Most lesbians become aware of feelings towards women friends (or girlfriends if they become aware earlier in life). Longing, desire,the feeling of falling in love with other women often comes before sexual desire. If you have no desire to "be" with a woman in a romantic way (holding hands, falling in love, setting up house, getting married) and you do have such desires towards men, you're probably not a lesbian, as such.

That said, apparently lots of women have sexual feelings for other women at some point in their lives. The label is rather unimportant. Live your life. Love whomever you will. Be free.

Posted:11/16/2007
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Marianne I, Portland, OR, United States , Female
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Category: Sexual Orientation
Subject: Ummm...
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You might just be bi, or you might just have been in the moment. Getting off from vigorous, overtly sexual contact with another woman does not automatically mean you're a lesbian any more than jacking off with one's buddies, (something men do more frequently than they will generally admit), means a man is gay. The girlfriend is obviously someone with whom you are very comfortable and close. If you were in the same situation with a near-total stranger, do you think you would have reacted the same way?
Posted:10/13/2007
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Ann , Kansas City, MO, United States , 40 , Female , Animist , White/Caucasian , Straight , Executive Assistant , 4 Years of College , Middle class
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Category: Sexual Orientation
Subject: Natural curiosity
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Many women are curious about lesbian sex. It's only natural. If you were a lesbian I believe at this point in your life you would know. I think you two were physiologically aroused from the contact and nature of 'wrestling'. I don't think you are gay, maybe just a little bi-curious. If you want to experiment, share the fantasy with your husband and have fun!
Posted:5/29/2007
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Jeanine Flynn , Honolulu, HI, United States , 35 , Female , Catholic , Black/African American , Straight , surgical first assistant , Over 4 Years of College , Upper class
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