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Don't be judgmental, but be concerned
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If she's 18 in Detroit, then of course she's sexually active.
The S/M gear could be just a fashion statement and nothing more. However, it is good for a parent to be concerned about a daughter's safety.
There are extensive S/M communities in many large cities, including Detroit. The vast majority of S/M practitioners use what they call "safe, sane and consensual" guidelines. There are lots and lots of rules to make sure nobody gets hurt.
If you're sure your daughter is mature enough to tell the difference between a responsible partner and a wacko, perhaps you could open a conversation by simply asking her pointblank about the cuffs.
She probably will be uncomfortable talking to a parent about it. Try not to be judgmental--make sure she knows you're asking only out of concern
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